I found myself in quite a lot of sentences and thoughts...wanting maybe to "run away" from the truth, but stayed and faced it, to acknowledge my shortcomings and learn from them.
I must say though, that the 15min silence and solo walks or lunches, I have practiced quite a lot and were my "first aids" during some of my tougher times.
Though to be honest, the only time I really feel to be "with myself" is when I go free diving.
The silence, the focus, the "inner voice" and the silence that follows while you take the last breath and dive down. No room for error, no room for clutter, because if you let it..you may not surface...come to think about it, it is the same as you write, only the collapse is does not come from afar or after some time, but it will hit you right away. In the end, I find it as my reality check, not running away from it, but facing it so that it provides me more clarity.
Thank your for your contribution, being a "mirror" and a "blind spot" spotter.
Am I amazed by this facts that people would rather shock themselves than stay in silence for 15 minutes. Questioning myself—why?
I am perfectly familiar with the feeling and I have gone through a similar situation. My body (my spine exactly) one day said: “My dear lady, I am off.”
Facing the wheelchair for life because of 1000 obligations that I wasn’t able to accomplish. They were only in my head, because you would like to be perfect, an excellent leader, a guide for others. In the meanwhile you forgot yourself somewhere.
Because you think that is impossible to stop and just breathe as a normal human being. Because you convince yourself that you are a rock star or a Highlander.
And afterwards you begin to dig in yourself, facing the real “me”, facing that you are only human and you have to take care of yourself on your own. That your mind, your body and your life are only one. You start from scratch.
The truth—if someone cannot be in silence or in peace for a while, then something is terribly wrong. And it’s not healthy on a long run.
Gregor,
thanks for this inspiring article.
I found myself in quite a lot of sentences and thoughts...wanting maybe to "run away" from the truth, but stayed and faced it, to acknowledge my shortcomings and learn from them.
I must say though, that the 15min silence and solo walks or lunches, I have practiced quite a lot and were my "first aids" during some of my tougher times.
Though to be honest, the only time I really feel to be "with myself" is when I go free diving.
The silence, the focus, the "inner voice" and the silence that follows while you take the last breath and dive down. No room for error, no room for clutter, because if you let it..you may not surface...come to think about it, it is the same as you write, only the collapse is does not come from afar or after some time, but it will hit you right away. In the end, I find it as my reality check, not running away from it, but facing it so that it provides me more clarity.
Thank your for your contribution, being a "mirror" and a "blind spot" spotter.
Beautiful! ❤️🙏
A great article! 👏👏
Am I amazed by this facts that people would rather shock themselves than stay in silence for 15 minutes. Questioning myself—why?
I am perfectly familiar with the feeling and I have gone through a similar situation. My body (my spine exactly) one day said: “My dear lady, I am off.”
Facing the wheelchair for life because of 1000 obligations that I wasn’t able to accomplish. They were only in my head, because you would like to be perfect, an excellent leader, a guide for others. In the meanwhile you forgot yourself somewhere.
Because you think that is impossible to stop and just breathe as a normal human being. Because you convince yourself that you are a rock star or a Highlander.
And afterwards you begin to dig in yourself, facing the real “me”, facing that you are only human and you have to take care of yourself on your own. That your mind, your body and your life are only one. You start from scratch.
The truth—if someone cannot be in silence or in peace for a while, then something is terribly wrong. And it’s not healthy on a long run.
Just breathe…and cherish the silence.
Tanja, thank you for sharing this with such raw honesty.
Your story is a powerful reminder: the body always brings us back to truth.
Silence isn’t empty—it’s where we finally meet ourselves.
Couldn’t agree more 👌
Great piece with some great research-powered data! Yes, being at peace with ourselves is an important skill to master.
Thanks, Damjan. Exactly—peace with ourselves is the hardest, yet most essential leadership skill.
Real progress begins the moment the ego goes silent.