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The Monk and the General

True power begins where control ends

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Gregor Kosi @The Modern Leader
Oct 11, 2025
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When the war finally reached the monastery, the old monk did not flee.

Soldiers poured through the valley, burning villages, erasing names from maps.
Their general, proud and sleepless, rode ahead — determined to conquer everything that still breathed defiance.

He entered the monastery courtyard and found the monk sweeping leaves.

“Do you not fear me?” the general asked. “I could cut you in half without blinking.”

The monk stopped sweeping.
“And I,” he said quietly, “could be cut in half without blinking.”

For a moment the world held its breath.
The sound of war vanished behind the sound of one leaf landing on stone.

The general lowered his sword.
No one ever heard of him again.
But the monastery still stands.


The Leader’s Truth

Every age has its generals — those who believe that control brings peace.
But domination never creates harmony; it only silences it.

In organizations, control often masquerades as leadership.
We call it alignment, discipline, or accountability.
But when fear is the foundation, performance becomes the prison.

The strongest leaders don’t fight chaos — they hold presence within it.
They don’t control people — they cultivate trust.
They don’t conquer — they connect.

Because true power doesn’t come from the sword.
It comes from stillness.


Reflection (Weekend Question)

Where are you still trying to control — when presence would serve you better?


Weekly Challenge

Next time a situation feels out of control, pause.
Breathe.
Resist the urge to tighten your grip.

Instead of reacting, observe.
Notice how calm changes the room faster than commands ever could.


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